Special Guardians and Adopters Together members feel it is important to be able to ‘tell it like it is’. From ‘good practice’ to ‘this should never happen’, the positives and the negatives of adoption and special guardianship are all important to learn from.

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Opportunities to speak out can be very curtailed in adoption and special guardianship because of our need for anonymity and it is imperative we safeguard the privacy of our children.

There is, in most cases, no other forum for the views, experiences and stories we have put up here, to be brought into the public domain, which is where we feel they need to be. We feel it is important to speak out so progress can be made.

We also appreciate that whilst there may some bumps along the road for many families, their experiences may not be as extreme as some of the cases we have put up here where children have re entered care. If your story is a positive and hopeful one, with lesser difficulties – we are still the right group for you!

And finally, and perhaps most importantly, if you would like to share examples of good practice with us, we would love to hear them. We would be especially interested in hearing from adopters  and special guardians who have had well supported reunifications with their children after they have re-entered care. As far as we have been able to ascertain no models exist for bringing family members into better relationship and working towards reunifications as an ultimate goal in our cases. This can make help seeking a risky business – resulting in us being viewed and treated as a ‘failed care option’, rather than a permanent family that gives the most potential for healing.

Names are changed, or not given, to protect professionals, children and families.

“It feels like she just walked into my head”

Jake’s Story – An adopted child who re-entered care and was subsequently reunified with his adoptive mother

The real impact of School Exclusion

Adopters and Special Guardians in court – the hidden impact of a Care Order

A concerning consultation about information sharing

Adopting a Child. Mandy’s Story

A personal reflection on the Care Crisis Review by SG&AT Chair

The ‘D’ Word

Help us Create Change Together

Our daughter has a right to family life, not a smart phone!

A Blast From the Past – 2004

A Special Guardian considers FASD

Our Shaming State

Shame and Self Loathing in the Treatment of Trauma – Workshop Review

The Harm of Neglect

DfE’s response to a serious case concerning a previously looked after child

DfE’s response to request for support and to open letter to Children’s Minister

Cases for the SCIE (Social Care Institute for Excellence)

Modern adoption in crisis: Are current legal frameworks supportive and working for children and families when a child re-enters care?

Autistic children in care

Adopting a child with child to parent violence problems: Iliana’s story

Mary’s Story: When help seeking leads to a child protection investigation

Lisa’s Story: A child who grew up and wanted to help others like him

Jenny’s story: adopting a survivor of child sex abuse

When help seeking leads to blame and removal instead of help

Understandably Distressed Behaviour

LBC Interview with adopters under stress (POTATO website)

Home is where a traumatised child’s problems emerge

Are forensic court processes in the Family Courts focusing in the wrong place?

Adoption in Crisis: time for legal reform

Being assessed to be a Special Guardian – taken from a judgment made by HHJ Stephen Wildbood QC

Adopters in Court – What needs To Change?

Condemnation of Mothers – How does this Help Our Children?

Case Study – EHC Plan for an Autistic Child cared for by special guardian grandparents

Special Guardians and the Adoption Support Fund

Adopted and Special Guardian Children who Re-enter Care

The Value of Social Media Forums to help Parental Stress

Problems we face as Adoptive Families

Adoption cases for the SCIE Project on the Mental Health of Children in Care

Ideas to Support Permanence

Open Letter to the New Minister for Children and Families

Naomi’s Story: Abandoned after the SGO; Too scared to ask for help

Thoughts on being a McKenzie Friend when an adopted child has re-entered care

Thoughts on legal frameworks when our children cannot live safely with family

Why not providing match funding for the ASF is a false economy

Reflections on Lord Justice McFarlane’s NAGALRO speech

10 Good Reasons to Sign Our Petition 

Second Open Letter to Rt Hon Nadhim Zahawi

Reflections on a Recent Court of Appeal Ruling about an Adopted Child who Re-entered Care

Why ‘telling it like it is’ is important in Adoption and Special Guardianship

A Special Guardian reflects on Charlie Jackson’s (BACP) Report: Working in the NHS: the state of children’s services

Different Families – Different Needs

Context is everything – especially in court

No one should be above the law – so the law must change

Too Adversarial and Punitive

An Adoptive Parent’s Response to the School Exclusion Review

Parental Alienation – is this affecting previously looked after children?

Please send us an email if you are interested in joining our group, wish to offer support, or would like to work together with us – adopterstogether@gmail.com